Let's have a look at the family scales:
First there's Mr. Veggie's family. Nice and nuclear. Two parents. One brother. Niece. Nephew.
Notice how we all fit on one couch.
Then there's my family.
*All photos personal photos.
We don't even fit in one picture. I've got steps, halves, dads, moms, the works.
Why do bring this up? Well, because I am going to have all of my sisters as bridesmaids. Since I have moved around a lot in my adult life I have many good friends from all over. My friendships tend to come in waves, stronger some times with certain people, weaker sometimes, mostly depending on where I'm living at the moment, but my sisters have been a consistent force in my life since as long as I can remember. Plus they're all really rad, amazing women. Who could ask for better bridesmaids?
That means four ladies for me. Mr. Veggie would like to have his brother stand on his side. 4-1.
I also am really close with my (very tall and shaggy haired) little brother. So, he needs to be in the wedding party. I'd love to have him stand on my side, but that brings the score to 5-1.
I guess it would be o.k. if my bro stood with the other dudes. It would also appease his sense of masculinity. 4-2
My brother-in-law (Veggie Sis K's hubby) is a second brother to me. We even went on a road trip together this past summer without my sister since she had to work. But I feel like if I include him then I should also include Mr. Veggie's sister-in-law who I also absolutely adore. 5-3
Wait, who's going to be watching all those adorable little veggie sprouts while us grown-ups are doing wedding party duties? Maybe best to leave out the in-laws. 4-2
Bridal parties don't have to be evenly matched. Right?
So, do we leave it at that? Four ladies and two guys? Or does Mr. Veggie recruit two extra dudes?
The problem is that a lot of his "dudes" are actually "dudettes". He has several close girl friends, but not too many guy friends that he feels super close to anymore. The dudes he does feel close to are childhood friends and live overseas, so he feels bad asking them to take a major role in the wedding. Also, Mr. Veggie is a bit older than me, and many of his friends are older than him. Wouldn't it be weird for one of his 50+ year old friends to escort my 20 year old sister down the aisle?
I don't know... what would you do?